I was constantly being overtaken by thoughts as I lay next to my partner. Will he find my body attractive? Should I start by touching his chest or move right on to his cock? What if he's not yet tough? Perhaps I ought to kiss him? Should I just use the "techniques" I am familiar with in the order that they typically produce the best results? I should have probably shaved my legs. Good Sex Movies

Maybe I can please him without having him touch my legs. What if he isn't currently that interested in making love? ... And, of course, my thoughts immediately return to the original idea. I might not be appealing. I then begin to circle the track in my head once more. All of this is to say, of course, that the intimate encounter was not going well.

All of these insecurities were completely preventing me from being sexy. I mean, I wasn't really paying attention to my partner at all with all that mental nonsense going on! Because most of us aren't actually physically present when we make love, this is the point I wanted to make. Which brings me to my main point: if we aren't "in the present moment" and conscious of ourselves and our partner in an open, curious way, then really, we are just acting intimate.

That isn't really a connection at all; it's just become a demonstration of how we imagine sex to be, rather than an investigation of what it actually is with this specific person. What about you then? Have you noticed that you're playing the "role" you believe your partner wants you to play or that you should be playing? Have you truly experienced deep pleasure from this? I'm going to assume that you have been there and that you also felt a slight sense of "incompleteness" after the encounter, as if there should have been more.

True intimacy is the missing something that we are all searching for. has the capacity to be in the moment with another person and be completely open and curious. The chance to have a primal sense of who we are and who our partner is. We have the chance to remove all the masks we put on throughout the day and just be ourselves. Is this simple? Yes and no, I suppose.

It's the most natural state in some ways, but for the majority of us, it's also the hardest state we've ever experienced. We hide almost constantly because we are so overcome by shame, guilt, and fear. In addition to preventing us from experiencing our own joy, hiding prevents our partner(s) and other members of our lives from truly understanding who we are.

The performance is still going on, both inside the bedroom and outside. It is exhausting. Depleting. and ultimately fatal to the soul. So what do you do? Being authentic and sharing this with another person makes us naturally vulnerable; we must give in. The first step is realizing that we are "performing." It takes time to discover who we are, what we want, and what our true nature is.

Having caught a few fleeting glimpses of my own pleasure in being open with someone, I would say that seizing this chance is the only worthwhile action. Are you prepared to move forward? In this process, it would be an honor for me to be both your ally and your mentor. Let's talk; schedule a free consultation with me.

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